Lenore is 3!

Lenore is THREE (yesterday)! Things have been really busy with my cousin's wedding this past weekend, and (subsequently) my sister, niece, and nephew are staying with us for a few days/nights. I'm a day late.

Lenore at 3 Years

MoanaElsa (Moana's necklace + Elsa's dress with train)

Her stats (we will get at her doctor's appointment on Friday):

Height: 38.15 inches [77th percentile]

Weight: 36 pounds 6.4 ounces [91st percentile]

Her doctor's appointment went well! She didn't have to have any shots or finger pricks (Lewis was really concerned she'd have to have a finger prick). We just talked to the doctor about things, and he checked her out. All looks good!

What she's up to:

• She is in 3 day 3s (half day) preschool at a new school this year and loves it. She bounds in the car every day at carpool, wanting to show me what she's made or to tell me what she's done that day. 
• She loves to dance and sing. She'll ask me to sing 'that pink circle' song or 'that song about a blue rectangle in Gramma's room,' and I have to make up songs on the spot to her requests. Some times are easier than others. :)
• Her favorite things to watch are Mickey Mouse Clubhouse, Moana, SING, and Frozen (which is becoming slightly less and less).
• She loves wearing tutus and dresses and crowns and necklaces and bows in her hair. She loves pretending to be her favorite characters (Moana, Elsa, and Anna). She loves having her nails painted, and she lets me cut and fix her hair. [It's kind of fun to discover the sides of myself that I never really had time/interest/confidence in while growing up.]
• She likes to play with Lewis, but Lewis doesn't always like her to play with him or his toys. They will fight and scream and chase each other, which is hard. They are sloooowly starting to play better, which gives me glimpses of what it can be like.
• She loves to play outside and isn't afraid to get dirty. In that way, she and Lew play really well together. She likes to ride her tricycle and to play with the neighbors.
• She is potty-trained! After 2-3 false starts over the past 9 months, she's finally stuck with it and is doing really well. She was almost there when school started, but I kept her in pull-ups the first two weeks, just in case. Then we had one intensive weekend of only-underwear-commitment training (which she initiated), and we haven't looked back. We've had a few accidents when she's gotten really busy playing, but she is doing great. It was a lot easier than what I remember with Lewis. :)
• She is still napping 2-3 hours in the afternoon. I can see it waning a little bit some days--sometimes she will stay up in her bed past her 7:30 bedtime, but sometimes she still sleeps a lot. I'm trying to stick to her nap schedule as much as possible. It certainly helps with me not working this year--I can get her from school, do lunch, and get her down for nap early enough that she can wake up on her own before it's time to go to the bus stop to get Lewis. Sleep is everything.
• She also sleeps with a crib tent, like Lewis did. She started climbing out 3ish months ago, and she didn't do well in her toddler bed (getting things out of her closet, pulling off books, etc.). I think by the time the crib tent arrived from Amazon, she was STARTING to get the hang of it, but the peace of mind from the crib tent (safety/containment/etc.) is better for right now. 
• Along with climbing out of her bed, she is fearless on the playground. She will follow Lewis up any sort of climbing structure, and she might fall but pops right back up again. Fearless. I'm considering getting her signed up for a tumbling class or something similar because I think she would love it.
• She is pretty manipulative, I would say. If you tell her not to do something, she will tilt her head to the side and say 'But I'm just touching it' or 'I'm just looking at it' or something similar. She does NOT like to be told what to do or not do. :) It can be challenging, to say the least.
• She is wearing size 4T clothes and size 10 shoes.

Lenore's Favorite Things (Age 3)

What is your favorite...

...color?   Yellow

...toy?   Tomato (from her kitchen)

...stuffed animal?   Dog (from IKEA)

...thing to sleep with?   Frog blanket

...fruit?   Watermelon

...vegetable?   Potato

...cereal?   Lucky Charms

...thing to eat for breakfast?   Pizza

...thing to eat for lunch?   Pizza

...dessert?   Ice cream

...candy?   Eyeball (apparently she just had one yesterday)

...drink?   Lemonade

...restaurant?   Donald's

...animal?   Elephant

...book?   Clifford

...song?   SING (all of the songs)

...game/sport?   Riding my bike

...TV show?   Mickey Mouse Clubhouse

...movie?   Moana

...thing to do outside?   Ride my bike

...place to shop?   Kroger

...shirt/outfit?   A dress

What do you want to eat for your birthday dinner?   Cake

Who is your best friend?   Juni

What do you want to be when you grow up?   Big :)

Hopefully a Final Mama Health Update

I can see the finish line for driving again (Monday!), and I feel a lot more certain now than when I did three months ago (when I was also nearing the finish). I feel like we have a diagnosis and the medicine is working like medicine is supposed to, and I am trying really hard to trust in that and not get anxious about the 'what ifs.' Scientists are paid lots of money to research and develop these things, and it's for good reason.

I definitely feel better having had a seizure in the EMU (Epilepsy Monitoring Unit) that I could see with my own eyes and that my doctor could see and feel confident in what's going on. There are still a lot of whys and hows that I want to know the answers to, but we've run the only tests we can run, and the rest is 'philosophical' as my neurologist has explained to me.

My check-up a few weeks ago with my neurologist went well. He was very reassuring and reminded me that it took torture (by them) to make me have a seizure in the EMU. I have had a few symptoms that have kept me on edge for the last 87 or so days (since switching meds), but it turns out they're just side effects of the medicine. Some memory issues, tingling in my head, loss of words, lightheadedness, etc. I can get used to them, as long as I stay seizure-free. My medicine level is 'great,' so onward and upward we go.

As I reflect on the whole not-driving experience, I am most thankful to Kevin for picking up the slack and driving us everywhere. From dropping off Lewis at camp and picking him up on lunch breaks, to stopping for milk on the way home from work. 

I am also thankful to my in-laws and my parents for driving us around. For taking me to doctor's appointments and/or staying with the kids.

I am thankful to my neighbors and friends who have offered up rides and/or adjusted plans for us. Some have driven to us to hang out, some have come over and taken me on errands, and some have just opened their (car) doors to us. I didn't take advantage as much because I don't like to inconvenience anyone, but I am so glad to have so many kind people in my life. I never did call an Uber, like I thought about, and I never used the city bus that I was going to try to use to get around (car seat stresses). Since quitting my job, we didn't have any regular places to be, so it was unnecessary.

I am thankful for ClickList, which I have now fully embraced for my weekly grocery shopping. In the spring, I was walking to Kroger, shopping, and getting a ride home from Kevin and the kids, but the hotter summer months have made me change things up. I've really only done it 3-4 times, but it's been such a lifesaver. It was free at first, but even paying $4.95 makes it worth it. I'm looking forward to grocery shopping by myself again, but I will consider CL if we are having a big party or just get too busy sometime.

So things are looking up! Lewis starts school next Wednesday, and Lenore starts 3 days/week after Labor Day. I'm working on our calendar for the fall, and I'm looking forward to getting on with our more 'normal' life again. Hooray!

Just an Update, a Month Later

I've been on my new medicine for a month now and feeling ok. I'm taking Vimpat now instead of Keppra because Keppra messed with my head, majorly, and I still had episodes while taking it. Vimpat is newer and doesn't yet have a generic, so I'm probably going to face issues with insurance in a few months once the free trial runs out.

I still have some light-headedness and tingles (I can't think of the appropriate word right now) that dance across my head sometimes. It feels like someone is tapping swirls around my brain, really quickly. I do feel like my memory is not quite 100% (though it never really was, but it feels a little slower/worse than before).

I ended up having to go back in and have a blood patch on my back, which was the worst pain I've ever felt in my life, after the spinal headache was still there 6 days later. They said the spinal tap pokes a (large) needle through your spine and out the other side. If one or both holes don't close up, you leak spinal fluid. Since your brain floats around in that fluid, if you have a leak, your brain has less cushioning (because there's less fluid for it to float in), and you will have the terrible headache until the hole is closed up. The blood patch is a procedure which just goes in the spine (and not out the other side), and you have your own blood injected so that it will coagulate and close up the hole(s) for you. The blood has to be fresh, though, so it's a very primordial procedure, to me.

First, I was numbed with Lidocaine (which hurt really bad--multiple stinging shots, over and over). Then the doctor immediately (before really giving the Lidocaine a good chance to work, I thought) went in for the procedure. He inserted the huge needle in my spine, then the nurse withdrew a pretty big vial of blood from my arm (which hurt like a mother), then the doctor injected that blood into the needle in my spine. The whole thing took just a few minutes, then I had to lay flat for two hours. I was released to go home and immediately felt much better.

I ran into my neurologist in the waiting room beforehand, and he was very confused and asked what I was doing there. I told him about the headache, and he was so apologetic. :) Obviously not his fault, but I told him it was all his fault. I was just glad to get some relief.

I go back to see him in July, and my return to driving is still slated for the middle of August. Fingers crossed that nothing happens to extend that. Poor Kevin had to drive all the way to/from Hilton Head, and now we are trying to figure out how to get both cars in for oil changes. Uber, much?

Neurology Update from May 12-17

I checked back into the Epilepsy Monitoring Unit on Friday, May 12. I was told to sleep deprive myself the night before and not take my Keppra that morning, both to kind of jump start my stay. 

Friday night, I was sleep deprived again (up until 1), then I did strobe lights and hyperventilating (until about 1:30) before going to sleep until about 6:30am. 

Saturday was a long, frustrating day of nothingness. Saturday night, they gave me a medicine to make me sleep and to lower my seizure threshold, but nothing happened.

Sunday was another long day, with sleep deprivation again that night (up until 2am).

Monday night, they gave me a higher dose of the medicine to make me sleep and to lower my seizure threshold and DING DING DING!!! I finally had a seizure!!! I have no recollection of it happening, but the nurse and EEG tech told me about it about 3 hours later. I couldn't believe it--FINALLY.

Tuesday morning when my doctor arrived, I gave him a big high five. He's been just as determined and frustrated by all of this as I have. He confirmed that it was an electrical/epileptic seizure. He told me that they don't know the cause of epilepsy in 80% of cases, but that he could look into an autoimmune connection (since I have IBD and psoriasis) and/or do another MRI to make sure my brain looks good. Beyond that, he really doesn't have other tests to perform (mind boggling to me).

Tuesday day, I had a spinal tap (aka lumbar puncture) done to test for an autoimmune connection. When I got back to my room, I had to have IV fluids to try to curb any side effects from that test. Tuesday night, they gave me Valium to really knock me out, and I slept off and on that night. I had a splitting headache when I sat up Tuesday evening, so the nurse suspected a lumbar puncture headache. She talked to my doctor, and he ordered more fluids, an IV anti-inflammatory medicine, and flat bedrest that night. So from 1-2am, I couldn't sleep because of the IV pump. Besides that, I slept fairly well and my headache was gone on Wednesday morning.

Wednesday morning, I had to go down and get an MRI and wait for those results before being discharged. Along with seeing the MRI results, my doctor let me see the video and EEG of my seizure, which was fascinating to me. It might give me nightmares, but I am really glad I got to see what I look like. As far as the MRI, all looked the same two years ago when all of these issues started. I was released around 11am and headed home to finally take a shower and move around freely without having to have assistance. Hooray.

Then the headache returned, and I felt clammy and nauseous all afternoon/evening. I did make it out to see Beautiful: The Carole King Musical with my mom, but I have a headache again today and need to take a nap right now (b/c Lenore is napping).

I will have to follow-up more often with the neurologist for the next year to make sure the medicine is keeping things under control. He switched me off the Keppra because a) I still had seizures while taking it and b) it was (scarily) messing with my memory and making me feel very foggy.

Fingers crossed that the new medicine will keep things under control. If all goes well, I will be able to drive again August 14, right in time for school to start back for Lewis.

Looking back over the past two years, I think I have had 7 seizures (that we thought were parasomnias or syncopes or other things): 3 in the 6 month period of 2015 when I was still up nursing Lenore in the night, 1 on February 4, 2 on May 3, and 1 on early May 16.

I'm glad to know that they are true epileptic seizures, but I can't believe they (scientists/researchers) don't know the cause in so many cases. There are things that can trigger seizures and lower seizure thresholds, so I guess I can do my best to follow the guidelines. But it's pretty harrowing to think that there's so much unknown.

To be continued...

Neurology Update from May 8

I was greeted by my neurologist on Monday with a loud 'What is WRONG with you?!' I appreciate his humor in all of this, I really do. He said he kept me in the EMU last month to be certain of his diagnosis, and he felt sure of it. My EEG was 'pristine,' according to him. He said that he likes to be right, and that he is usually right. He felt like it was looking like neurocardiogenic syncope (fainting) instead of epilepsy. He had referred me to the cardiologist, who I saw last week--he told me to stay hydrated and sent me on my way.

My neurologist was really, really surprised to hear that I had more episodes. He said that standing up in the bathroom is probably the most common way he has heard of people having syncope episodes, so he would have passed that off as a blood pressure/blood flow issue. But then, the fact that I had another one in the ER, a few hours later, just sitting in a hospital bed, is what is driving him the most crazy.

Through the neurology appointment on Monday, I mentioned (again) that I do have IBD (ulcerative colitis) and psoriasis, and he asked how long I've had those symptoms. Psoriasis was at its worst right before Lewis was born because I remember having laser treatment on my feet (and being super pregnant). The IBD started right after Lewis was born and was worsening and worsening until just last fall when I started a new medicine (Entyvio). That medicine has been checked out and is not found to cause seizures, but I think my doctor is thinking that there could an an autoimmune connection to my seizure issues.

I am heading back to the EMU on Friday. I'm supposed to sleep deprive myself beforehand and skip my morning dose of medicine to get things moving along. I'm not sure if he's planning to try to trigger a seizure or not--he said he has all of the data from before to work with, so he has more specific objectives in mind. I could stay one night or a longer stay--he couldn't say.

He is going to do:

• another MRI (it's been 2 years since my last)
• a spinal tap (to test for an autoimmune connection)
• possibly a tilt test (to check my blood pressure situation)

And I have to take blood thinners since I developed the blood clots last time. I feel like it will be easier in some ways because I know what to expect, but harder in some ways for the same reasons. Being attached to all those wires is the worst part, but hopefully he can figure some things out and get me going on the right path. As of now, August 1 is my date for driving. If I do have a seizure in the hospital, we start counting all over again (90 days).

I'm feeling lightheaded and having trouble remembering things, which could be from the increase in medicine. Or just my brain calming down and recovering. 

Lenore at 2 1/2 Years

I think that they (doctors/insurance companies) must have added a well-child check at 2 1/2 years since Lewis came through that age. I feel like we went at 2 and at 3 with him, but 2 1/2 feels a bit odd. Anyway, Lenore went on Monday, and everything checked out well.

Her stats:
Height: 37.5 inches [91st percentile]
Weight: 33 pounds 3.2 ounces [89th percentile]
Head Size: 51 centimeters [98th percentile]

I feel like she's caught up/surpassed her normal growth curve. I think she was more 'average' before and now she's a little more 'above average.' She didn't have to have any shots or finger pricks, so it was a pretty basic appointment. I DID finally switch offices (still within the same hospital system, but to one more conveniently located to us and hopefully more efficiently run). The doctor was very friendly and took a lot of time with us (AND WAS ON TIME, which is a huge improvement).

What she's doing:

• Still napping. #praisejesushallelujah When she doesn't, there's hell to pay for days and days after. She typically sleeps 3 hours in the afternoon, and close to 12 hours at night. She is still in her crib, but I have started thinking about when we will transition her to a twin bed. Maybe once school is out, we will put a bed in her room and let her live with it--I feel like it's going to be a lot easier with her (vs. Lewis), but I feel like it needs to be her idea.
• If you'll recall, we had no choice with Lewis because he was climbing out of his crib at 18 months and was a danger to himself. We were forced to find a way to keep him in his bed (and naps suffered and it was a very dark period of time). I think Lenore's personality is such that she will decide to when she decides to and she won't look back.
• On a related note, potty training is going to go similarly. She decides/announces that she needs to pee occasionally, and she will go and clap and wipe and flush and all is well. It's not happening consistently for her, though, and she doesn't seem to be in any hurry.
• She has so much attitude. We joke that she's a strong, independent woman, which she is, but MAN. When she has put her mind to something being a certain way, there can be times when nothing we can do or say will sway her from getting it her way. It can be so challenging.
• She has been out of preschool since March 17 (when I quit working and pulled her). She is all set to start at a new school near our house this fall, 3 mornings a week. I'm really excited for her/us to have a fresh start, with 3 years of preschool still ahead of her, because of the way her birthday falls (October 29).
• She had tubes put in last month (finally), and we go back to have them checked tomorrow. I'm sure everything will be fine with that--she seems unphased.
• She says really funny things these days. She says 'about everybody else' in the improper context, so it cracks me up now that I recognize her doing it. 
• Example: She took a magnet off the fridge at lunch today and said, 'What is this about everybody else?'
• I think she just meant, 'What is this?'
• It was a superhero-shaped bottle opener magnet, so I think she was trying to ask who he was/what character/etc. If you spend time with her, listen for her to insert 'about everybody else' from time to time.
• She loves to walk on her own, ride her bike on her own, look for rocks on her own, etc. She really no longer allows me to take stroller walks with her. Or we will walk to a destination (i.e. the lake to look at geese), and then screams THE ENTIRE WAY HOME about how she wants to walk. I can put her in the bike trailer to get where I need to go, but, even then, she sometimes screams when I try to get her back in to go home. It really sucks not being able to drive places. It sucks having to rely on walking or riding my bike everywhere...with a screaming toddler. Any chance I can get to have some peace and quiet, I need to take it. I do get up to walk with a neighbor two mornings a week, and that is nice. But as far as being productive and getting errands run, that quiet/alone time is something I have missed and will miss until August (or beyond) rolls around.

Sorry to stray. I'll post a health update, as well. I met with my neurologist on Monday, as well, and he seems to have some theories.